The Infinite Way Letters
By Joel Goldsmith
Part 5 of 5
Exposition Regarding Families, Relatives and Friends
The subject of families, relatives and friends so often crosses my desk that I know it must be a universal problem. In meditation for the numerous students who have written me regarding this, the following has been revealed to me:
While there are still families there will be family problems, and the larger the family the greater the problems. This is because we are not on the same level of consciousness and further, although some are on the Spiritual Path others think no higher than self, which means “I, me and mine” and so often omits all thought of others.
Thus it becomes necessary to find some method of handling and solving the problems. In our case the solution lies in the understanding and demonstration of one word—“reaction.”
There will always be discords and inharmonies on the outer plane, and the degree in which we allow them to affect us is determined by our re-action to them. If we accept discords as being personal we re-act wholly to them, and they can be very disturbing in our experience. If, however, we understand that others are living up to their highest sense of right, and that they have no possible way of hurting anyone other than themselves, we re-act in lesser degree to their conduct and to their thoughts.
This brings up a great principle: all good emanates from within you, and this means that before any bread can return to you, you must first loose it upon the waters. Our good, which seems to come to us from others, is but the reflex action of the good we have loosed or released into the world. Ah, yes! But what is the nature of the good that we are to release into the world, since it does not necessarily mean the amount we give to charity, or the human service that we give, or the sacrifices we have made for our country or our church?
The good that we loose—we on the Spiritual Path—is the amount of truth that we understand about God and God manifest, and this is all summed up in the two great Commandments of the Master.
First of all, we must loose or release the realization of the truth that God alone is Mind, that God alone is Love, that God alone is life, that God alone is the True Being of individual being. This truth must be constant—it must be a constant state of awareness within us.
The second Commandment is: “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” Here we have many forms of love: first of all, the love that recognized God as the individuality of all being. Then there is the love that operates as forgiveness, even unto seventy times seven. There is the love that forgives its enemies and even prays for those who despitefully use us. There is the love given in service to our fellow-man, in gifts to the right causes, in benevolences in the right direction—always, of course, when given out of pure love and with no thought of a return.
In proportion as these two great Commandments fill our consciousness, we are casting our bread upon the waters and, naturally, this comes back to us in the form of good.
Meanwhile, we are faced with all the appearances and personalities of relatives and friends and enemies. We must learn not to re-act, but to realize that any evil that is done will harm only the one who does it. Just as no good can come into our experience except through the good that we send out, be assured that the opposite—the evil or the materialism that we hold in thought—also comes back to plague us, because it is written, “…whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”
As far as we are concerned, this means if we are sowing Truth we are sowing to the Spirit and we shall reap life everlasting. If we sow to the flesh—which means if we continuously hold to the fleshly concept of man—we will reap mortality.
The secret of harmonious relationships is the understanding of God as the very life, Soul, Spirit, substance, activity and law of every individual, of every animal, and even of the vegetable and mineral worlds.